British physician John Bowlby returned from WWII to work with hospitalized children. His observations challenged the status quo views. Children need a loving caregiver to thrive. Separation and isolation are harmful and nutrition is not enough. Robert Hinde introduced Bowlby to the work of Konrad Lorenz on animal attachments (see below).
Canadian scientist Mary Ainsworth worked with Bowlby when she was in London. Later she examined Bowlby's attachment ideas in experiments at American universities using the "Strange Situation" test. She discovered three patterns of attachment. In securely attached children (two-thirds of the sample), mothers functioned as a base for exploration and a source of comfort following a brief separation. But one-third did not seem to respond differently when mother was present or absent--later studies suggested they repressed distress and acted independently--avoidant attachment. The remaining group appeared anxious and clingy throughout the study--resistant attachment.
As Jonathan Haidt observes, love conquers fear--wisdom from an ancient writer about perfect love 1 John 4:18.
Researchers Cindy Hazan and Phil Shaver developed a test for adult attachments based on the findings of Mary Ainsworth. Their findings suggested a fairly constant attachment pattern persisting into adulthood from childhood. Secure adults appear happier, have longer relationships, and have lower rates of divorce.
Familiarity Breeds Content.
The human attachment system works with the human mating system. Youth seek and attach to their romantic partners and demonstrate clingy cuddling behavior like young children. You can see this interaction on the lawns of colleges on a warm day. Psychologist Jonathan Haidt reminds us of the ancient wisdom found in Mark10:7-9 about young couples leaving their parents and joining as "one flesh."
Adult Romantic Attachments
Romantic attachment in adults follows the pattern of infants and mothers (or caregivers). Romantic partners function as attachment figures for each other. When partners are separated by death, friends do not help as much as parental support.
Adult attachment has been studied by various scientists. Nancy Collins of UCSB and her colleagues developed a measure of Adult Attachment, which includes a subscale of "Depend," which measures how much a person feels they can depend on someone when needed. This scale, revised in 1996, measures romantic relationships. There is also a reworded version that can be used to assess attachment in close relationships rather than only romantic ones.
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The human caregiver systems also work in tandem with children's attachment systems. Children's distress signals alert parents to respond with care-giving behavior that brings child and parent into close contact whether feeding or comforting.
Public media have overdosed on oxytocin effects; however, oxytocin does provide a sort of biochemical glue, which rises during sex--especially when there is persistent close contact. And oxytocin is at work when mothers give birth and nurse.
Attachment to God
See the related post to learn how researchers apply the theory to the relationship between humans and God.
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A child's attachment system often persists into adulthood and accounts for important aspects of secure and insecure romantic relationships.
Attachment theory helps explain different relationships people have with God or gods.
Attachment theory helps explain a part of what happens when a spouse dies leaving the living spouse with a severe loss of comfort and support. Often, friends won't help as much as a parent.
The infant's attachment system interacts with the parent's care-giving system in human adults binding parent and child in a loving relationship.
Attachment may range from highly secure to highly insecure, very close to very avoidant, and very calm to very anxious.
Insecure attachment may be evident in avoidant behavior, but the person may experience considerable inner distress even when appearing not to care.
Insecure attachment may be evident in anxious and clingy behavior in children and adults.
Separating children from harmless parents produces harm. Food and shelter are important, but love is critical for survival.
Attachment to God
Attachment to God Inventory
Adult Attachment Scale
Collins, N. L. (1996). Working models of attachment: Implications for explanation, emotion, and behavior. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 71, 810-832.
Collins, N. L., & Read, S. J. (1990). Adult attachment, working models, and relationship quality in dating couples. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 54, 644-663.
Sutton, G. W. & Mittelstadt, M. W. (2012). Loving God and loving others: Learning about love from psychological science and Pentecostal perspectives. Journal of Christianity and Psychology, 31, 157-166. Academia Link Research Gate Link
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